If you want your relationship to grow to a new level of health and renewed passion, then take the anger, bitterness and rudeness out of your marriage and replace it with kindness, forgiveness and compassion…”Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32 (taken from Marriage Facebook page)
For me a solid marriage WILL take hard work. The difference, at least I think, between looking at this as a “chore” and looking at this as simply part of a long term loving relationship is your attitude. No one is perfect. But if you constantly find yourself arguing and nit picking at your partner or vice versa then there are some hidden issues causing such disrespect and anger. Even if you don’t believe in God or in Christianity everyone should believe in the basic goodness of humankind. And that itself deserves a little respect.