Veteran’s Day

Not one day goes by I don’t miss my battles. I have been out of the Army now for over a year. We are a unique set of individuals. And with working at the National Personnel Records Center, I honestly have to say I feel privileged to still be able to connect with the military at some level.


For myself, the military was a calling since I was 15 years old and that calling never left me, why I joined at 17. Good times and bad I take them all. They made me into the woman I am today.


Dad served in the Navy, met mom when he was stationed in Puerto Rico.


If it weren’t for him falling in love with that island girl I would not be here today.  Not a day goes by I don’t think of dad.


So, happy Veteran’s Day (belated) to you dad.


Thank you for watching over your soldier girl.




Finding an editor

“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”
― Anaïs Nin

When you believe in yourself, in your story, you’ll do anything and everything you can to get it “out there.”

I attended my 1st meeting with the St. Louis Writer’s Guild a few days ago and learned about an awesome editing service through Reedsy.

1st meeting with St. Louis Writer's Guild

1st meeting with St. Louis Writer’s Guild


The site will line you up with various editors (along with freelance)regarding whatever criteria you are seeking including genre. Whether that be copywriting, proofreading, or content editing, you’ll find your perfect match.  It also organizes your project(s) for better tracking.

As long as you believe in yourself and your characters, the opportunities are endless when it comes to making those writer’s dreams come true.


Coming together…


One of life’s greatest challenges is being the “new person on the block.”

In just a few days I will be inheriting a new team.

It helps that I’ve been managing people since my late teams courtesy of Uncle Sam.  With that being said, leading soldiers and leading civil servants comes with its own unique skill set.


Mistakes will be made, and you learn from them.

Trust will certainly be an issue, but as long as you treat everyone fairly across the board, letting team members know that, as their leader, you will be there for them, will alleviate some of those misgivings.

Trust your team enough to allow them the room to grow.  I don’t believe in micro-managing.  I do believe in self-empowerment. OWN your work.

I have an open door policy and want my team to feel safe communicating to me any issues they may have.  And THEN we will find solutions by working together.

I enjoyed reading the following article:  8 Tips for Empowering Employees by Kevin Daum:

Most leaders carry lots of information in their brains. Unfortunately, many employees don’t get the benefit of all that information, yet they are expected to take action and make good decisions as if they understood every nuance. Great leaders figure out how to extract the important information from their minds and share it in a structured and consistent manner. An employee who clearly understands the core values, purpose and direction of the company can easily make consistent decisions and take appropriate action at any junction. It’s on you as the leader to impart your vision. That’s how you lead.

Can I get an amen?


The NCO Creed was my mantra while serving and parts of it are quite relevant for any team leader:

Competence is my watchword. My two basic responsibilities will always be uppermost in my mind—accomplishment of my mission and the welfare of my Soldiers. I will strive to remain technically and tactically proficient. I am aware of my role as a non-commissioned officer. I will fulfill my responsibilities inherent in that role. All Soldiers are entitled to outstanding leadership; I will provide that leadership. I know my Soldiers and I will always place their needs above my own. I will communicate consistently with my Soldiers and never leave them uninformed. I will be fair and impartial when recommending both rewards and punishment.




Choice, Chance…Change


Many life changing moments are happening as I write this.  My daughter is moving out, I gained a promotion.

We all sometimes fall into a zone of comfort…we feel that change is bad.

We prefer to acquiesce, allowing the security of the familiar to embrace us.

I can see how freeing this can be.

Our lives can be ever so predictable…no unexpected surprises-or stress.

“I have come to accept the feeling of not knowing where I am going. And I have trained myself to love it. Because it is only when we are suspended in mid-air with no landing in sight, that we force our wings to unravel and alas begin our flight. And as we fly, we still may not know where we are going to. But the miracle is in the unfolding of the wings. You may not know where you’re going, but you know that so long as you spread your wings, the winds will carry you.” C. Joybell C.

But if we wish to succeed, to give meaning to our lives, sometimes risk is necessary.


Ok, this video is a tear jerker.  They both come from The Greatest Generation and I can easily see why they were called this:

Erin Solari took to YouTube and Facebook to share a video of her 92-year-old grandfather comforting his dying wife on her hospice bed, but not only that—he serenades his 93-year-old wife with “You’ll Never Know,” an oldie that has a very special meaning for the couple.

“This was the song my grandmother would sing when my grandfather went away to fight in World War II. It has been their love song ever since,” Solari explains in the caption of the video.

“She is 93, he is 92, and they have been married for 73 years! Now he is the one singing to her as she prepares to go away.”


God wish more marriages were like this. I remember dad’s last words to mom were “I love you, love you love you.” Marriage isn’t easy. Oh man it isn’t….but if you BELIEVE in that love, you will FIGHT for it. We only have this one life to live…if you’re lucky enough to find this blessing, you both fight to keep it going through the hard times and rejoice during the brighter days. Every single one of us are thrown curve balls. Our partner in life is there to help catch them when you cannot. Always give it your all.

Source:  click here

Polyarthritis Destruens


I was recently diagnosed with this disease which is a destruction of the joint ends and can be found in many parts of the body and is a markedly progressive disease.  The disease can lead to marked atrophy of the muscle to the point of deformation.  It begins in the small joints spreading to the larger ones. (Yeah not a pretty sight.)

What is Polyarthritis?

Any arthritis that affects five or more joints. Arthritis is a medical term for joint arthritis. Polyarthritis is frequently caused by autoimmune conditions such as rheumatoid arthritis, psoritic arthritis and systemic lupus erythematosus but may also be caused by certain infections and cancers as well as other conditions

Source (click here)

At times the pain can be quite debilitating and conventional treatment is much more difficult…more bad days than good but you learn to push through the pain.

Coupled with fibromyalgia every day tasks, keeping a positive outlook, can become quite challenging.  When I was in the military and participating in field exercises, the stiffness, the pain became so much it was literally unbearable.  It is one of the reasons I made the sad decision to get out.

But what to do?

You push forward.

Sure I could always file for disability and am quite sure I’d be approved. However, I strongly feel my quality of life, what makes “me” happy would be sorely compromised. I would suffer far more than the physical pain I experience on a daily basis.

I realize am not alone.  Doesn’t really console me, but knowing  there are others out there suffering through the same, gives me some glimmer of hope a cure can be found.

In the meantime, I keep a positive attitude (and yes sometimes I DO cry but always in private) and realize each day I am here is a day worth living.



Pain adds rest unto pleasure, and teaches the luxury of health.
Martin Tupper