A new dawn??

Ferguson, Missouri (CNN) — At least 31 people were arrested in Ferguson after peaceful protests devolved into another night of chaos. And many of those arrested came from as far away as New York and California, said Missouri State Highway Patrol Capt. Ron Johnson early Tuesday.

Johnson didn’t provide additional details, but his remark confirmed what many in Ferguson have been saying all along: the protesters who have turned the nightly demonstrations into tense confrontations with heavily armed police officers aren’t local residents.


Police use force as tension grows


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“I’m telling you, we’re going to make this neighborhood whole,” Johnson said. “And I am not going to let criminals that have come out here from across this country or live in this community define this neighborhood and define what we’re going to do to make it right.”

He has a Herculean task ahead of him.

It’s a shame what’s going on in Ferguson. Well, beyond shame really.

And the characters of the individuals who looted, burned, and creating chaos in this area is simply disgusting. Coming from a police family and an extensive military background, it sickens me to hear the vile abuse hurled against cops.

What about the internal crimes repeatedly occurring within these communities?

EVERY week we hear about black on black crime in the St. Louis area. WHERE is the outrage? WHERE are the protests?

WHY can’t communities simply come together (political, religious, and business leaders alike) and denounce the slaughter of young black men from their fellow peers?


I already KNOW more community outreach needs to be done between the P.D. and locals…but also addressing the violence WITHIN these communities occurring between themselves needs to S.T.O.P.

There are GOOD people in Ferguson. I know of a few who are in my Army Reserve unit and who work at my agency.  They are heartbroken and angry about what’s happened.  There are outsiders infiltrating into this suburb instigating more violence and chaos.  Good hardworking citizens who are simply trying to put things to order. Instead, the situation has deteriorated. 

Has compassion, understanding, and common sense left??????

Are we witnessing an historic moment?


Race relations in my country have always been a maelstrom.  Not just because of Blacks being brought here by Whites as slaves but also due to the volatile nature of our socioeconomic condition.  Ferguson, MO used to be an all White community until the “great white flight” of the 1960’s when inner-city Blacks moved into the neighborhoods. In order to understand what is going on in this local suburb read up on its past.


Good or bad (trust me everyone has an opinion), the past events have culminated into the currently volatile situation we now have almost at my front door. I am by far no expert on race relations.  I only know what I’ve seen and heard with my own eyes and ears. I grew up with racism, was the subject of such prejudice and chose to overcome it.


I have seen racists slurs directed by both Blacks and Whites against each other. No one is innocent here.  It takes a conscientious effort on all of us to remember that despite our skin color underneath we are the same.  And because of this, we should treat one another with respect and dignity.


I know it’s easier said than done, but frankly I am sick and tired of the violence and abuse. Overseas we have Civil War, genocide, starvation, pollution, etc and here at home we have our own economic struggles, our poverty…the list goes on and on.

I grew up within a community that is still for the most part 99.9% Caucasian.  I received real-time, real life diversity training at school from my peers, who didn’t know how to handle a bi-racial kid, all the way down to the Caribbean where cousins firmly told me I was not Puerto Rican enough, that I was a “Gringa.” So, here was this Midwestern Irish/Puerto Rican gal who lived in perpetual limbo. I was quickly educated on where “my place” was.

But I did not stay there.

I joined the Army

I went to College

I became a Mother


Maybe it’s easier said than done for some…I don’t know. Life is absolutely relative…but….if you desire to better yourself down to your community—–it starts with y.o.u. YOU need to pick yourself up and make YOUR community a better place and pay it forward.

Time for me to get off my soapbox.

I will leave you with this:

If we don’t start at home, where everything begins….nothing will change, and the ugly head of racism, self-entitlement, and violence will continue it’s cyclical course.

Be the change you want to see in the world.

“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.”
Paulo Coelho, The Devil and Miss Prym


Can stress kill you?

…yes….yes it can:

Stress is a well-known contributor to heart disease with elevated adrenaline levels and increases cortisol (secreted by the adrenal glands) and then there is arterial inflammation within the blood vessels causing the narrowing of the arteries and build up of plaque.

And those who are emotional eaters will gravitate towards sinfully delicious foods which typically contain sugary or fatty goodness.

According to Dr. Ashly and Dr. Michael Arn, in their article: “What are Symptoms of Stress?” these are the symptoms of stress (how many of you can check mark these items off?).

The key is finding manageable and healthy ways to deal with the every day stresses in life. Those that you can control, find a way to manage such as finding a better job if your current employment is the epicenter of your discontent, talk to your partner if there are issues in the relationship, fix your finances etc, those you cannot learn new coping skills that can make you better able to deal such as exercise, better eating habits, change your current sleeping pattern…whatever it takes to “fix” you.

What are long-term symptoms of stress?

  • All of the Short Term Symptoms
  • Aches and Pains
  • Frequent Colds and Viruses
  • Depression
  • Sexual Disorders
  • Diabetes
  • Lethargy
  • Obesity
  • Premature Aging
  • Difficulty Sleeping
  • Drinking Alcohol/smoking
  • Taking Medications
  • Unhealthy Eating Habits
  • Heart Disease
  • Ulcers
  • Restlessness
  • Skin Conditions

Short-term symptoms include:

  • Anxiety
  • Elevated Heart Beat
  • Increased Sweating
  • Cool Skin
  • Cold Hands and Feet
  • Mood Swings
  • Recent Unhealthy Eating Habits
  • Poor Memory
  • Poor Concentration
  • Pessimistic Attitude
  • Headaches
  • Irritability
  • Insomnia
  • Constant Urination
  • Feelings of Nausea or Butterflies in your stomach
  • Rapid Breathing
  • Tense Muscles
  • Dry Mouth
  • Diarrhea
  • Problems with Digestion
  • Elevated Blood Pressure
  • Decreased Sex Drive
  • Constantly feeling Tired or Worn out

All eyes on St. Louis

I come from a cop family. My sweet husband is a retired detective, my paternal grandfather was Chief of Police back in my home state of Indiana and a maternal uncle was Chief of Police in Puerto Rico. Eventually one of his sons became a cop. His other son was shot in the chest and killed in PR years ago by a cop because he was dealing drugs. My cousin was unarmed. He left behind a wife and daughter. He was only in his early 20’s. I thought about becoming a police officer, was even a police officer intern in college but my mom was dead set against the career so I had to switch to something else. Not all cops are bad just like not all Blacks or Hispanics are bad. Unfortunately we are portrayed badly in the media and Hollywood. What needs to happen is that our community leaders need to come together, the law enforcement agencies come together and have a peaceful town hall type of meeting. something to encourage better community relations. I really do feel for the mother of Michael. She even stated she didn’t want any more violence. This violence does nothing but disrespect her son, her grieving process and I as a mother completely understand. The black community and the white community need to come together and resolve these issues. There is so much sadness in the world. Too much in fact. We all need to make this a better place somehow. The whole world knows what’s going on here. We have the mike. Let’s make what we have to say worth saying and yes, find resolutions.

A sad day in the St. Louis area

With the death of 18 year old Michael Brown many questions are being raised here in St. Louis and unfortunately violence as well.  Looting and rioting have no place within a civilized society. If such violence was deemed ok then it means anarchy will ensue. Do we want our country ending up like those in the Middle East which some are in a Civil War? Yes, something needs to be done to establish better community relations between law enforcement and the people living in that district but destroying businesses is plain wrong. WRONG. Those businesses are the livelihoods of hard working Americans. Some are small businesses and the looting can very well destroy them. I really don’t think insurance covers acts of civil disobedience. As soldiers we defend the right of free speech but with that being said, there are laws in place to arrest people who incite hatred which leads to a mob mentality. If this mess isn’t resolved soon I can easily see martial law being put into effect.


“If we cannot end now our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity. For, in the final analysis, our most basic common link is that we all inhabit this small planet. We all breathe the same air. We all cherish our children’s future. And we are all mortal.

[Commencement Address at American University, June 10 1963]”
― John F. Kennedy

Fake on-line persona

I was reading an article regarding a woman’s journey into her ex-boyfriends scandalous cheating ways and how she found out he had a fake Facebook page. You know there’s trouble in paradise when a partner decides to hide something like this from their S.O. (Significant Other).  If said person feels the need to create a fake online persona then there is either something wrong with that person, or with the relationship as a whole.

It irked me to read it. I really should have simply clicked out of there but things like this really stick in my craw.  WHY is it there are individuals out there who slip themselves into someone’s life and ingratiate themselves to said person only to break their hearts later????

WHY do they even get involved?

WHY even fall in love or for that matter “commit.”

If that person is having a difficult time staying true-blue to their partner then:






Why put some innocent through torment because you aren’t able to keep yourself together? And while we’re at it…WHY the self-destructive behavior?

And with the Internet at all of our fingertips it makes it that much easier to stray. Yes, am on my soapbox today. The article really struck a nerve. I honestly don’t get these people who feel they have all the rights in the world to screw around on their partner and think nothing of it. I guess there’s no conscious in there. Jiminy Cricket went on vacation.

The workplace blues

The Greeks said grandly in their tragic phrase, ‘Let no one be called happy till his death;’ to which I would add, ‘Let no one, till his death, be called unhappy.’

Elizabeth Barrett Browning

I constantly think about how much of our waking hours we spend at work.  8 hours plus a day 40 days or more a week.  We are surrounded by like-minded individuals (for why else would they work there?) and they are in fact or work-family at least for that time period.

I’ve been employed since I was 17 years old, (I don’t count being the friendly neighborhood babysitting years starting at around 12).  Everywhere I’ve been worked I’ve heard the same litany of complaints.
Now I realize not everyone works at their dream job, and we all have crosses to bear when it comes to work attitudes—and oh yes….having to spend 8 hours a day with coworkers.
Well, with that being said, we all should be eternally grateful that we have a job. There are thousands of Americans out of work or underemployed. There are many families which are struggling to make ends meet and even those that are homeless.
So, try coming to work with at least one thing each day to be grateful for.  Also, and it’s free….try developing a positive attitude within yourself. It goes a long way.
I am certainly not in the mood for complaints on a Monday morning, which are always the most difficult for me to get through. Whatever is bugging you talk to someone but trust me….complaining gets you nowhere fast.
Remember, we can’t change our coworker’s behavior. What we can do is change how we behave ourselves.  We can let our job (if we hate it) or your coworkers (if they are chronic complainers) eat at your soul but again, in the end it’s up to you how you handle these usual life obstacles.
Simply put…a negative attitude will make matters worse.
And that’s just common sense.

Internal motivation

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.

― Vince Lombardi

I remember more than 2 decades ago this 15 year old girl who wanted out of rural southern Indiana. She had big dreams, even grander ambition.  And she made them all come true.  Left a small farming community, didn’t know how to drive, never held a job except as the neighborhood babysitter.  Flash forward 2014. She now has many wonderful and not so wonderful experiences under her belt.  World traveler, educated, and now married.

What motivates you?

What gets you up each and every morning to start the same routine over and over?

Is there something about your life in which you’re particularly proud of? What is it? What did you do to get there?

Nothing in life is easy.



It is up to us and no one else to make us happy.  It is up to us to become productive members of society. Give back in some way.

Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.  Mark Twain

Who are you?

Have you ever felt like your life has been one huge counterproductive mistake? That the decisions which you thought were the right ones turned out to be completely the opposite?

Why is it our younger selves (who think we’re so invincible) try to tackle head on issues which we know nothing about? Our parents, elders, and “more experienced” individuals tend to evoke a rebellious attitude?
I saw this in myself, and I currently see it in today’s generation.
Doesn’t matter if it’s your son or daughter straining against your loving parental advice or the kid next door rolling their eyes at your well meaning good intentions.  Today’s youth (no matter the generation) seems to always be in the wrong. 

Could it be as parents we coddled our children far longer than what’s deemed socially acceptable? Has the technological boom generated an entire generation of socially awkward and selfish little bastards? Could it be the growing number of single-parent households (either due to divorce or out of wedlock marriages?
I am considered part of Generation X and even during the tender years of my youth I was lucky enough to experience life as it’s meant to be instead of it all being crammed into social media or gaming.
I think spending too much time behind the computer screen and create socially stunted adults.  Kids become lazy or complacent in their anonymity and choose the “easier way out.”
Far more American children are becoming obese.  According to the website Teenhelp, over 12% of our children are overweight.
As parents it is our responsibility to encourage our children to delve out of their comfortable couch comfort zone and mingle with the “real” world.  I think we parents too become lazy ourselves, caught up in our own adult problems, leaving our kids behind to fend for themselves.  My generation was that of the latch key kid. I was lucky in that I had my mom to come home to every day while dad worked. Not all kids are so fortunate.
Just remember, these kids of today will be the ones changing our socioeconomic world….and that in and of itself should be food for thought.