The Passage of Time

I don’t think any child is ever ready for their parent to grow older.

Mom is 76.  She and my sister made an overnight pit stop before heading to Memphis to visit Graceland.

Lately I’ve noticed that mom is repeating herself and also forgetting some of the more basic tasks.

It’s a hard pill to swallow.

Ever since my father passed away in 2011 I’ve created this barrier regarding my feelings toward my one remaining parent.  Hard to describe other than if I lose my mother now I could not handle it.

I know growing older is part of life. I get it. But why must our minds and bodies break down in the process? Why can’t we all ‘age gracefully?”

As a little girl I could never imagine life without mom. She was always there for her kids.  Didn’t matter if we raised hell or were complete angels. She continuously loved us despite or faults.

Though there were times when things became a little rocky I never doubted her love for us kids.

I am blessed.

Now as an adult I still find it quite difficult to comprehend mom is older, elderly.  Call it what you will.

All I know is that she’s my mother and when that day comes, when I can no longer hear her voice, hug her, see her…am not sure how the adult me will react.

So cherish your parents, make amends if needed.

Our time here is short, and oh so very precious.

A Writer’s Tools…

Besides having a creative imagination (and patience) I found the following books to be quite useful and who knew there was an Emotional Thesaurus out there?

From Writer’s Digest:

 

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2016 Writer’s Market Deluxe Edition

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  • The importance of setting goals and creating a plan for success.
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  • The value of a strong writer platform (and how to build it).
  • Why e-mail and mail lists are extremely important for freelance writers.
  • When freelancers should negotiate contracts (and how).
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  • And so much more!

You’ll love 2016 Writer’s Market Deluxe Edition if:

  • You are a writer who wants to publish their work.
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From Amazon.com

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One of the biggest problem areas for writers is conveying a character’s emotions to the reader in a unique, compelling way. This book comes to the rescue by highlighting 75 emotions and listing the possible body language cues, thoughts, and visceral responses for each. Using its easy-to-navigate list format, readers can draw inspiration from character cues that range in intensity to match any emotional moment. The Emotion Thesaurus also tackles common emotion-related writing problems and provides methods to overcome them. This writing tool encourages writers to show, not tell emotion and is a creative brainstorming resource for any fiction project. (source click here)

Learning to take things one day at a time

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Everyone has their struggles, their cross to bear.  We think we are the only ones who face cruel adversity.

I sometimes fall into that “poor me” rut.  When my health is giving me issues or I feel I need to make more money to simply make ends meet I simply want to crawl into a hole or take a very very long vacation…then I witness an event, or someone whose faced far worse than myself and it wakes me up (for the time being).

yes, it’s ok to feel sorry for yourself…once in awhile.

Just don’t make it into a bad habit.

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There are times I don’t want to get out of bed, then I think–I have a job. I am lucky to have a steady paycheck…I do well, I keep a roof over my family’s head.  So I persevere, forcing these aching joints, bad back, and general malaise to “get a grip.”

I think about when the time comes for me to retire. What will I have to complain about then? Boredom? Hopefully not.

I watched the news yesterday and let me tell you I continue to be shocked by some of the most vile and disgusting things human beings do to one another.  I felt empathy for the loved ones regarding the murders and attempted murder of those involved in the Virginia-based WDBJ-TV shooting.  Senseless.  And simply watching a story like this puts my own life in perspective.

We can “always have it worse.”

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We only have this one life to live.

 

Would you rather spend it lamenting about the negative or try finding ways to make those obstacles into your strengths?

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When you love someone

…being faithful should be easy.

But, as we’ve recently seen regarding the scandalous Ashley Madison story, in today’s absence of moral conscienceness, many men and women are taking to the Internet to fulfill daring fantasies through the anonymity of the online world of mystery, romance, and casual sex.

Faithful spouses are being duped by their partners who hide shamelessly behind a screenname…not caring that what they’re actually doing will eventually have dire consequences.

If you are one of those spouses who’ve been fooled by your partner. Leave.

Being faithful is easy. And there is someone out there who will agree.

What is YOUR inspiration?

I am currently in the process of seeking an agent.  Can be a daunting process but as long as you follow submission guidelines, respect their time, and ensure that your story is ready then go for it!

I was digging through some of my older posts regarding my personal passion for the written word and came upon this article written about me from the St. Louis Writer’s Guild.  If you are frustrated, trying to find your way, please read what I had to say and do not lose heart:



 

How do you motivate yourself? How do rejections affect your writing? Janet Terrell wrote the following article on motivation for St. Louis Writers Guild.

From the time I was thirteen years old I had an urge to express myself. I used to write out my stories longhand. Then my father gave me an old Remington typewriter, the kind that had the horrid dual ribbon with the black stripe on top and the red on bottom. Even though it was a labor of love, I still sometimes wondered what motivated me to write.

What I have found from my own personal musings is that writing is more than putting words to paper. It takes a lot of thought, time, and energy. I have asked myself many times: What motivates a person to write, to expose their soul to the world? What compels a writer to express his or her views and ideas in characters and a storyline? Most important, what encourages a writer to persevere through the highs and lows of the writing process to reach the end of a story, or what’s even more challenging, a novel?

For me, motivation comes from inspiration, and inspiration arises out of my surroundings. I typically write in an environment that evokes my creative juices. I tend to gravitate towards calm places away from my family and cat. I love sitting on my bed with my laptop, door shut, allowing my mind to focus on the task at hand.

I began my first novel more than twenty years ago. I had watched the television mini-series North & South. I was inspired. This movie was all I needed to embark on my venture into the world of Historical Romance. However, what I found from reading a variety of this genre is that I do not like heavily laden novels dripping with sex or drowning in too many historical particulars. I had heard that one should write what one loves to read and so I was motivated to create historical romances that combined sex and history without overdoing it.

One of the ways I motivated myself to finish my first novel was by listening to inspiring music. The soundtrack to the movie Gladiator did it for me. Each song has its own special theme. I wrote my scenes to the music, thinking of various ways to bring out the meaning to the reader.

On a more personal level, I was inspired to share my work with the world. There is little in life that is more disquieting than the prospect of sharing one’s work with others. There is the potential risk of rejection from agents and publishing houses, however, a writer who is true to his or her craft will persevere. Even if he or she receives tons of rejection letters, they can be regarded positively. Rejection slips are nothing more than an opportunity to redirect energy into improvement. My advice is that a writer seek out any weaknesses, address them, and move on.

Sometimes the publishing industry can make a writer feel defeated. However, it’s important to realize that rejections are not always an indication of the quality of one’s writing. Sometimes perfectly good work is just not marketable at a given point in time. Sometimes a publisher has recently released something very similar. A writer seeking commercial publication should expect some difficulties finding a publisher. Self-publishing one’s work is a now a popular option given the advancements in technology that make it easier and less costly. Many new authors find this route easier. However, I highly recommend that those who choose to self-publish hire an editor to ensure a quality product.

What motivates one person to complete a novel may not work for another. It is incumbent upon writers to discover the circumstances that best stimulate their personal motivation to write. For myself, I allow all of my five senses to completely encompass me. Writing is not just placing words on paper from my point of view; it is a full body experience where emotions are caught up in the moment—not unlike a characters’ emotions are caught up in a romance, a loss, or rejoicing. Writing, to me, is not something that can be forced. Genuine creativity comes when the spirit and mind work in harmony, and that is where I find my motivation is at its peak of power.

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