A positive mind is a terrible thing to waste

I’ll never understand individuals who see the glass half-empty.

Granted, I am not little Miss Mary Sunshine, but I do try to be 1.) realistic and 2.) see both sides of the issue.

But LORD there are those out there who refuse to see the silver lining, utterly pessimistic and anxious to the point of being neurotic.

EVERYONE has a bad day, EVERYONE has those skeletons in their closet, or been through tough times. But to live your life day in and day out refusing to see the brighter side, refusing to take a look at other options?!?!?. Did a switch flip?

Just can’t fathom how they manage to get through their day.  Negative thoughts bring about negative actions and I find such people toxic and choose to either not associate with them or keep it at minimal contact.

They’ll focus on the general hopelessness of life and complain about their job as if they’ve been forced to work there.

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We all have “those people” in our office.

And working within a cubicle environment can be quite exacerbating since we hear everything, even topics we really should not be privy to.

Such individuals are simply draining. Right? 8 hours a day 5 days a week…………….$&%^#@!!

So, really,HOW do you deal with it?

I’ve always tried to get the person to see the brighter side, (or at least be realistic)…whatever the situation may call for….but sometimes, well, however you spin things–just does not work. Not for them. Lord no!       :(

So I guess, this post is simply a rant regarding such individuals who get under my skin (and boy do they!) because there is no simple answer in trying to get them to change their perspective….to try and change things in their little world.

 

MISSOURI ROMANCE WRITER’S OF AMERICA

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RWA has a local chapter here in the Show-Me state.  Decided to join so I can network with like-minded individuals’ love of the written word.  Looking forward to my first chapter meeting in August.  All things are possible…………………

About MoRWA:

MoRWA represents around 70 established and aspiring authors in the St. Louis and Metro-East regions, encompassing not only the traditional romance genre, but mainstream, suspense, and other genres as well.

What and Why…

Our goal is to foster professionalism in the romantic fiction field and to provide support and information to members.  To that end, we meet monthly to provide a wide array of seminars by established authors, others in the publishing industry, and experts from the St. Louis community.  Members are also encouraged to join small critique groups, an invaluable tool for honing the craft and encouraging each other.  MoRWA publishes a monthly newsletter, Rumpled Sheets, with local and national news from the romantic fiction industry, articles, tips, and more.

Where and When…

MoRWA meets monthly at our new location in the Maryland Heights Community Centre, 2344 McKelvey Road (Click HERE for a map).  Our day often begins with a “Coffee Klatsch” topic conducted at 9:30  while the chapter Board of Directors meets, followed at 10:00 a.m. with a chapter business meeting.  The scheduled program begins at 11 a.m. and normally lasts for one hour, followed with lunch at a local restaurant.  All times are subject to change however, so check the Calendar page for the current month’s schedule. (source click here)

Hacking put to good use

The Ashly Madison website which connects spouses with other cheaters was hacked.  All I have to say is K.A.R.M.A.

I can never reiterate this enough….if you want to fool around………………….then remain single and leave this sacred institution to the grown ups who want to share their life with ONE person!!!!:

A dating website that helps married people cheat has been hit by hackers who threatened to release information about millions of customers.

Ashley Madison, which uses the advertising slogan “Life is short. Have an affair,” said Monday it had been attacked and some user data was stolen. (source click here)

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In answer to that question:  No, the heart truly never mends once broken.

Writer’s write…

Well, of course they do!   :)

Finding the time to write can be quite daunting.

 

I work full time and well, am the type of writer where I have to be inspired in order to create something.

Writing has been a large part of who I am since I was a pre-teen.  I found it as a way to escape my surroundings and create a world which *I* could control.
I found inspiration through “a’ha” moments. Either am depressed, moved, or pissed off.  As you can see…. my emotions rule my pen.
Writers are either internally or externally inspired, maybe even both, as is the case with myself. Books, music, and every day life will activate my imagination.  Sometimes it pains me when I can’t write something down.
My blog is not always grammatically correct, and that’s ok.  I don’t seek perfection through these electronic pages. What I write down here is a temporary moment in time, partly defines me, sometimes not.
Writing is as essential to me as breathing.
I cannot let it go.
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ROMANCE WRITERS OF AMERICA

I decided it was best to join this illustrious group of writers to further my possible writing career.

I tend to put the cart before the horse in many aspects of my life and it’s delayed some long-term goals I’ve had…..with that being said joining RWA was a smart move on my part.

I’ve included some pertinent information from the site below for those of you interested in romance writing:

Romance Writers of America: The Voice of Romance Writers

Romance Writers of America® (RWA) is a nonprofit trade association whose mission is to advance the professional interests of career-focused romance writers through networking and advocacy. RWA works to support the efforts of its members to earn a living, to make a full-time career out of writing romance—or a part-time one that generously supplements his/her main income.

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RWA is:

  • a non-profit membership association based in Houston, Texas
  • dedicated to advancing the interests of career-focused romance writers
  • more than 30 years old (founded in 1980)
  • an association of more than 10,200 members
  • home to 145 local and online chapters
  • host of an annual meeting with more than 2,100 attendees

Members include:

  • published and unpublished romance fiction writers
  • writers interested in learning about a career in romance fiction writing
  • publishing industry professionals
  • librarians and booksellers who support the romance genre

What RWA stands for:

  • Romance writers have the right to reasonable remuneration and preservation of authorial and intellectual property rights.
  • Literacy is individually and culturally vital.
  • Storytelling is fundamental to human experience: romance fiction explores issues of universal and eternal human interest.
  • United, romance writers are a powerful community. 

How RWA works:

  • RWA belongs to its members.
  • RWA fosters an environment of creative and professional growth.
  • RWA thrives through the free exchange of ideas, knowledge, and diverse career experiences.

If you are interested in becoming a part of this diverse and growing community, visit the Membership section for more information.

The word RITA® and the RITA statuette are registered service marks belonging to RWA. The drawing of the RITA statuette may not be used in generic fashion as a logo or decorative motif for any purpose in any publication not explicitly authorized by RWA. Permission to use RITA and Golden Heart symbols and institutional marks of RWA for any publication in other than fair use hard-news reporting must be obtained in writing from RWA.

 

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My poor baby

Returned from Vacation and had to take my pup in for his microchipping/neutering operation.  I have to admit, felt guilty inflicting pain on my baby. However, my veterinarian explained to me the benefits of castration.  Thought about it long and hard because I know I would be the direct cause of my puppy’s misery but also examined the big picture.  When I picked him up after the surgery and saw the slight wag of his tail upon sight of me, it practically brought me to tears.

He was happy to see me. ME!

Now he’s home recuperating and I’ve been mommy/nursemaid.  I do plan on taking the E-collar off while am around to supervise.  Hopefully that’ll spur him to drink and “do his business.”

It’s amazing how such a little animal could hold such a big piece of my heart.

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AMEN!!

By:  Jordan Thompson, Infantry Officer in the U.S. Army

I’m offended that everyone is offended by something.

I’m offended that because I’m a white male, people automatically classify me as privileged, regardless of knowing where I’ve come from or what I’ve been through. I’m offended that our First Amendment has turned into freedom of speech [just as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone’s feelings]. I’m offended that people assume I’m racist because I believe in economic development by way of Capitalism and a free-market economy.

I’m offended that people who are too afraid to ask for food stamps, disability, or unemployment (because they don’t want a handout) are probably the ones who could use it most, yet the majority of recipients who do in fact receive handouts abuse their “privilege” and continue to make frivolous purchases.

I’m offended that people care more about taking down an outdated Confederate flag but don’t get riled up when their American flag is being burned in the street. I’m offended that people care more about blocking homosexuals from getting married than fixing their own, broken and unstable, heterosexual marriages. I’m offended that fast food workers get paid more than my soldiers yet still expect to get paid more than nurses.

I’m offended by people who claim how offended they are, while they do nothing but gripe about it on their phones or laptops, when they could be writing or calling their respective representatives to actually get something accomplished. I’m offended by the lack of initiative, hard work, and tenacity in this country. I’m offended by complainers who pity themselves and just want to take as much as they can. I’m offended by those who have in fact “made it” yet are too rude to give back to the communities in which they’ve come from.

I’m offended by people who vote for a person based on the party they represent, the race or gender, age or a religion of a candidate… instead of how the candidate proposes to address each issue, respectivly. I’m offended by people who aren’t open-minded and think they’re always right, no matter what. I’m offended by people who don’t listen and read and legitimately try to understand unfamiliar concepts before brushing them off. I’m offended of what our country has become.

I don’t claim to know solutions to these issues… eventually maybe we will. I just pray that we can one day change our country for the better. And hope that our offenses can turn into progress.

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MISSOURI CIVIL WAR MUSEUM

On Father’s Day my husband, daughter and I visited Jefferson Barracks Civil War Museum.  It contained a wealth of artifacts and information regarding Missouri’s role during this turbulent time period of American history.

Little did I know that Missouri ranked 3rd for most causalities during the war and over 1000 battles were fought on this soil.  The entire experience was quite sobering.  My fascination of this era has further whetted my appetite for this time period’s medical knowledge and plan gaining more material for a project I have in mind

Below are some interesting facts regarding Missouri’s role during the Civil War:

  • Missouri was the only state in history, when proclaiming to be part of the United States, where the U.S. Army declared a state of war existed between it and the Federal government. The initial war declaration occurred at the Planters House Hotel in St. Louis in May 1861 between Federal commander Nathaniel Lyon and Missouri Governor Claiborne Fox Jackson.
  • The first military action of Missouri state forces occurred with the seizure of the Federal arsenal at Liberty, Mo. on April 20, 1861.
  • The first skirmish between Missouri State Guard and Federal forces occurred at the Battle of Boonville, June 17th, 1861. It was a Union victory.
  • Gov. Claiborne Fox Jackson is the only elected functional governor in United States history to have commanded troops in combat. In this case, he led the Missouri State Guard troops against Federal forces.
  • St. Louis was frequently inundated by wounded soldiers arriving from the battlefields aboard hospital steamboats. Sometimes 800 wounded soldiers or more would arrive in a single day. The city’s streets were filled with walking sick and wounded from “the levee on Chestnut Street up to the Planters House [Hotel] on 4th Street.” Early in the war, the Confederate wounded POWs arriving on steamboat went to the Sisters of Charity Hospital and the Union wounded were sent to the City Hospital. A number of other hospitals were also used. In 1862, Jefferson Barracks was converted into a military hospital with more than 3,000 beds for Union soldiers. At times during the war, Jefferson Barracks cared for more wounded soldiers than any other hospital in both the North or the South.  This is what ultimately caused Jefferson Barrack to become a National Cemetery, due to the large amount of deaths that were occurring at the post’s hospitals. Where there was a large amount of death, there was an immediate need for a burial place. Benton Barracks located in north St. Louis provided a 1,000 bed convalescent hospital and actually opened a segregated black hospital in April of 1864 for colored soldiers and sick contraband slaves.
  • Missouri had two state governments during the Civil War, one seceded from the Union and joined the Confederacy in 1861, and the other remained loyal to the Union.
  • Missouri supplied 110,000 troops for the Union and a minimum of 40,000 troops to the Confederacy (the actual number of Missouri Confederates is unknown as many Missourians joined non-Missouri units).

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It’s good to be “me!”

16797-1_nI think all of us get the case of the blahs when it comes to our appearance. Though some might think it shallow, appearances DO account for a lot of first time impressions which can open the doors for further interactions.

I have seen how people interact with those who are overweight to obese, and dealing with older Americans……and it’s not pretty.

And as I approach 50 (3 years ack) and am slightly overweight (sigh) I feel like I’ve been dealt a double whammy.

Women seem to get hit on both ends when it comes to our age and appearance. A lot of us struggle to keep the weight off, look presentable (ladylike) and well put together. Society DOES judge us at face value, I don’t care where you come from.

And when I think about myself, what I need to do in order to get rid of these pounds, to embrace middle-age….feels like a daunting task.

I have spent a small fortune in trying to remake my look…fresh, well put together, friendly and inviting. Have scoured magazines directed toward women my age (cough…cough) and fitness mags created for women seeking to improve not only their health but overall appearance.

It’s scary, it’s hard…and it’s frustrating.

And yes I do bitch about my weight, my looks, my health because it’s my right.

With that being said, I also realize I need to take action so that these three areas are addressed and I can improve my overall outlook.

FEEL healthy, THINK healthy! BE healthy.

Goals! Goals! Goals!

Easier said than done ladies right?

 

The following article:  Weight Loss After 40:  Why It’s So Hard and What Works (click here) has several key points women of “our age” can use to help us in this journey.  I pulled some tips which may help you as you continue on the right path towards a healthier, truer, “you.”

 

Time your eating to take advantage of your body’s natural rhythms.

Most experts agree on one thing: Snack (or eat dinner) after 8 p.m., and whatever you eat is more likely to go straight to your hips and stomach. Happily, the opposite is also true — what you eat in the mornings, when your metabolism is revved up to its optimum operating speed, is much more likely to be expended efficiently.

Don’t like to eat breakfast? Sorry, but there’s no way around this one; eating a good breakfast is one of the key habits experts have identified that keeps thin people thin. When members of the National Weight Control Registry (people who have maintained a weight loss of 30 pounds for between one and six years) were surveyed, 78 percent reported eating breakfast every day and almost 90 percent reported eating breakfast at least five days a week. This was one of the only factors researchers identified that those in the registry had in common!


 

I pray the latter half of this year brings about a new me. I can feel myself falling into this dreadful funk and it isn’t a pretty sight.

All talk and no action is akin to crying wolf. No one will take me seriously. I don’t know how many middle-aged women face what am currently going through.  Not just with “the change” but with coming to the realization that their body…our body doesn’t react the same way it used to.

And with that realization it sharply pulls me into my current situation.  I already received a hard dose of reality from my doctor.

With my health the way it is at present…..I need to suck it up, put on them big girl pants and create change….embrace a new me….new outlook….and ultimately a healthy solid attitude on life.

A Father’s Rights

With Father’s Day tomorrow I think about those men who are unable to be with their kids. Absence runs from soldiers deployed overseas to those who want to see their children but for whatever reason can’t.

For this blog post, I am primarily focused on those men who are, what I term as, “part-time” fathers.

And by no means am I belittling these men for their role or time involved in their children’s lives.  I blame the courts which have reduced these men’s presence to mere hours, days sometimes weeks regarding visitation rights. I blame the women who consciously choose to prevent good men from seeing their children.

Now, I realize there are quite a few deadbeat dads out there. (And this post doesn’t include them)

I digress, but honestly, I strongly feel that the family courts (though they say they try to keep the best interests of the child in mind), and then these women (not all of course,) involved will sometimes play with these men’s feelings  (ultimately affecting their children) because of past transgressions, hurt feelings, lies, whatnot.

Thankfully either party can request a contested hearing to enforce their respective parental rights.

In the end….keep the best interest of the child at heart. Do not maliciously withhold visitation rights from the other parent out of sheer spite.  The child involved deserves to know their parent and develop a healthy relationship.  HEALTHY!

For myself, my dad has been gone for over 4 years.  When he passed away he was only a shell of what he used to be.

I did not appreciate who and what he was as a man, as my father, as my dad….until it was too late.  His passing was pretty tough on me.

I looked back on old photos, movies and realized wow….my dad was there.  He photographed and filmed so many milestones of myself and my siblings.  He involved us in so many of his own personal interests.

So thank you dad. Thank you dad for being there.

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So, with that being said….if you are estranged from your father or from your son….take that first step…reach out and make amends.